"I meet women who inappropriately flirt to try and get to the top. I often find myself talking to women who get themselves into very difficult situations because they think that is the way to do it. Especially if they are in a very male and macho environment. They think that the way to get the boss's attention is to dress inappropriately and use their feminine charms but that is disastrous. It sends out the wrong signals and it certainly doesn't help with career progression."
This is nothing new. We know that this doesn't work. If anything, it only further objectifies and alienates the women and permits men to not take her seriously. Casey learned how to deal with that process in a time when women were nothing but secretaries and wives. Because men did not know what to talk to her about other than work, silence would fall upon a room when she entered. "You could get paranoid," she says, "But gradually I realised they were talking about the rugby so I'd pitch in on yesterday's game and the conversation would kick off again." She was seen as "one of the guys", but she cut right down to business afterwards. This is a tactic still applicable in many workplaces today. But it's a tactic applicable to many situations, not just gender. We should take heed of her advice for our everyday interactions. These simple relatable icebreaker comments can get you into any conversation and gain the attention of practically anyone.
UPDATE: Producer and director Callie Khouri agrees, and she showcases it in her work on Nashville, where we see the stars who we think have it all, but they really don't. She comments:
Well, I think the whole whether or not you can "have it all" idea itself is a strawman argument. I don’t know anyone male or female who can quote-unquote have it all. It’s a made-up idea. Men don’t have it all. They may have it better because they get paid more for the same work, but they don’t have it all. Men that are completely career-driven are missing all sorts of things in their kids’ lives. It’s always a struggle. It’s a struggle for men, and it’s a struggle for women.